I was hoping never to post again how to save more money fast here…. – prison talk

I was convinced he was done with being a drug how to save more money fast user and criminal. At first things went well. Toward the end of the season last year he started how to save more money fast making mistakes. I didn’t put two and two together…..I guess I didn’t want to believe he was back on drugs. He was. Speeding and other tickets followed. Then 2 arrests for possession within 3 weeks of each how to save more money fast other. Each time I bailed him out. Each time I paid to have our work truck released how to save more money fast from impound.

He posted this because the night before he came around how to save more money fast to the house and asked me to buy him grow how to save more money fast lights for a new business venture he wanted to start. You can imagine what that business is. He had plans to get his medical licence and grow how to save more money fast to sell. He wanted me to pay for the licence as well how to save more money fast since he’s broke….Having saved no money from a lucrative season last year. It’s illegal without a growers licence…..And those are hard to get for a felon. I told him no. He stormed out.

First….A medical marijuana license allows the person to grow plants how to save more money fast for their own use. Based on the actions and behaviors we observed…and the things you talked about….It seemed that you were planning on using that license how to save more money fast to grow and then sell it to others. That’s illegal and could land you back in prison for how to save more money fast the remainder of the time you have on paper. We did not want to be a part of that. We love you too much to be a part of how to save more money fast the reason you go back to prison.

You got arrested for that home invasion that you participated how to save more money fast in. We took loans to pay for your lawyer. We hired the best lawyer we could find. He wasn’t cheap. We loved you and didn’t want to see you in such a terrible place how to save more money fast as prison. You were facing 20 years……that lawyer was able to get you a plea deal how to save more money fast with only a few years in prison. Money well spent we thought….And “he must have learned his lesson this time” we thought. We went to every court hearing…..Every lawyer meeting because we love you.

I went to work every day, monday through friday at 6am and got off at 2:30. I’d then drive out to where you were and help how to save more money fast you finish the lawns for the day. Often we wouldn’t get home until 7pm…sometimes later. I did it because I wanted to see you succeed. That’s what families do. We spent many saturdays doing mulch jobs and cleanups and how to save more money fast bush trimming. Saturdays I used to relax and go on trips with how to save more money fast mom…not that year. We wanted to give you every chance of success……

We were kicking butt in the lawn care business. We were as busy as we could be. Some weeks we worked 6 and sometimes 7 days. The business was growing……so we bought a new mower. A $12,000 mower. Since you had not held down a job for more how to save more money fast than a few weeks in a row prior to the how to save more money fast lawn care business……your credit score was terrible. We talked about financing and making payments in order to how to save more money fast help repair your bad credit. I decided that money would come out of the business how to save more money fast account after you took out your 50% of the income…..So it didn’t affect your pay at all. We wanted you to succeed.

Then you got a ticket that was reported to the how to save more money fast insurance company. Our truck insurance went from $166 a month to $256 a month. You didn’t notice a change in your pay because I was how to save more money fast using my 50% of the income to pay the truck payment and the how to save more money fast insurance as well. So instead of my 50% of the business income that was meant to pay myself how to save more money fast back for the $9800 truck, $1800 trailer, the $6800 stander, the $1100 mower, the $600 blower, the $500 edger, the $600 trimmer, the 700 kombi, the $300 bush trimmer, the $300 hedge clippers, and all the assorted tools, gas cans, lawn mower blades, oil, etc, etc. I was working for free last year…because I wanted to see you succeed.

No matter how much money I spent…..You were the one that needed to fix yourself. I couldn’t do it. I realized that my money was just enabling you to how to save more money fast continue with the drug use. I decided that from then on you’d need to take responsibility for yourself. It was a hard decision because I love you and how to save more money fast didn’t want to see you struggle. But I realized…you weren’t a little kid anymore. You’re a grown adult man. It’s time you take responsibility for yourself.

Shingar – my heart is breaking after reading your post. There are so many similarities to what we have gone how to save more money fast through with our son over the years (yes, we’ve written them all down like you have), and we’ve waited for the dreaded phone calls, spent thousands of dollars, and we’ve cried many tears. I know how much you are hurting. I read this to my husband as well and we how to save more money fast were both on the verge of tears. We have felt many of the same feelings you are how to save more money fast feeling now. It is so painful. I am so sorry you have to go through this.

I have too many thoughts to write here, but please, please don’t blame yourself. You were not selfish, you wanted the best for your son, and you gave it everything you had. That is not unlike most of the parents here. There does come a time, as you have realized, that we can’t do it for them. We can’t make them clean and sober and we can’t save them from the consequences of their actions. Sometimes they really do have to learn the hard way. When we finally pulled back and let the consequences of how to save more money fast his actions prevail, our son ended up spending over 11 years in prison. It was super hard to do and some of those how to save more money fast years were difficult, but I think and hope that it was enough for how to save more money fast him to change his life for the better. He is now on parole, he’s sober, and even though I still worry, I know that it is completely up to him to how to save more money fast do the right things. Without sobriety, he will certainly fail.

Shingar – my heart is breaking after reading your post. There are so many similarities to what we have gone how to save more money fast through with our son over the years (yes, we’ve written them all down like you have), and we’ve waited for the dreaded phone calls, spent thousands of dollars, and we’ve cried many tears. I know how much you are hurting. I read this to my husband as well and we how to save more money fast were both on the verge of tears. We have felt many of the same feelings you are how to save more money fast feeling now. It is so painful. I am so sorry you have to go through this.

I have too many thoughts to write here, but please, please don’t blame yourself. You were not selfish, you wanted the best for your son, and you gave it everything you had. That is not unlike most of the parents here. There does come a time, as you have realized, that we can’t do it for them. We can’t make them clean and sober and we can’t save them from the consequences of their actions. Sometimes they really do have to learn the hard way. When we finally pulled back and let the consequences of how to save more money fast his actions prevail, our son ended up spending over 11 years in prison. It was super hard to do and some of those how to save more money fast years were difficult, but I think and hope that it was enough for how to save more money fast him to change his life for the better. He is now on parole, he’s sober, and even though I still worry, I know that it is completely up to him to how to save more money fast do the right things. Without sobriety, he will certainly fail.

You pursued everything you could to help him overcome knowing how to save more money fast the odds. Doing anything less was not in your DNA. You are a very good and loyal father, which is a gift and rather rare. The message you just sent was proof of what kind how to save more money fast of father you are. I am impressed. I hope that maybe, maybe your son gets the message. There is no doubt that everyone here who read your how to save more money fast post got your message and understood perfectly. Wish you peace regardless.

I thought the arrest and prison time was all I how to save more money fast could take. I made it through that. I can’t make it through this though. I can’t fix him and I don’t think he wants to be fixed. Today I disconnected from him. I can’t take any more. I blocked his phone number and all social media accounts. I have accepted the fact that I have failed with how to save more money fast him….And know that only he can fix himself. He shows no signs of doing that….Or even wanting to do it. If he communicates at all with his mother or me….It’s to ask for money. He knows I have money in the bank for retirement…And he feels it’s un-fair of me not to "loan" (give) him some of it. It breaks my heart……But I’m done. I hope you have luck my friend. I’ve never felt this low in my life.

Since we often can’t help without enabling, we just need to try to let go and realize how to save more money fast that they are adults making their own decisions. It’s mind numbing what we as parents go through, but it’s because we love our kids so much. My son has mental health and addiction issues, and right now he’s telling us all of the things we want to how to save more money fast hear, but we’ve heard it all many times before. We’ve had a security system installed in our home now how to save more money fast so that when he finally gets out, he will only be able to come in our house how to save more money fast if we invite him. We have no idea if that will ever happen. We’re trying to fix our broken hearts and our damaged how to save more money fast marriage. We are hoping to get out of debt from all how to save more money fast of the bills from the many, many programs we sent our son to before he even how to save more money fast got arrested. Both of us are now suffering from major health problems, and now we have medical bills on top of everything how to save more money fast else.

We continue to tell our son that we love him, but we also learned the hard way not to enable how to save more money fast him, and we tell him that too. We didn’t realize what enabling was until I spoke to one how to save more money fast of the young men from his AA meetings. (I went with my son to his meetings because he how to save more money fast didn’t have his driver’s license yet.) now we’ve actually even read books on the subject and STILL how to save more money fast never know if we’re making the right decisions even just by accepting phone how to save more money fast calls or sending him books. We are torn because we feel like he needs contact how to save more money fast with us while he’s in prison, but we have no idea if what we do will how to save more money fast hurt or harm. We constantly question our decisions since he’s so young, but we’ve been dealing with his problems since he was 5 how to save more money fast years old. We hear different things. Some people tell us that he needs the relationship with how to save more money fast us, others say cut him off completely. He has severe depression and is on mood stabilizers, but he talks about how he doesn’t want to be on them. We can’t force him to take them, but they do seem to help. Of course it will ultimately be up to him to how to save more money fast choose these things. We have no idea what to do.

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